HAIR HELP!!!...people plz help me, i think your my only hope?

im african american and my hair is natually wavy, but not coarse. i have to stop flat ironing my hair b/c i want it to grown and it wont grown if its damaged. so the other thing that i can do is wear it natural. the only problem is that when it dries...POOF!!! it gets all big and puffy. i would LOVE it if it could look KINDA like this...

http://www.naturallycurly.com/images/rea...

http://www.healthyhairplus.com/hair-styl...

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/images2...

it kinda does look like that except its just too puffy and its not the same size all over. its more controlled in some areas and then in others it looks really pretty just like in the pics. can someone plz plz help me.

i know it may sound dramatic or whatever but it will seriously change my life!

thank you thank you thank you %26lt;3

HAIR HELP!!!...people plz help me, i think your my only hope?

sorry your links dont work :(

HAIR HELP!!!...people plz help me, i think your my only hope?

links dont work :(